Here are some links to my favourite places to visit and shop:
The Mistress Boutique – is a shop that sells fetish clothes and toys. Offers discretion and very friendly and helpful staff.
The Colchester Collective – Has a monthly social meet-up (munch) and a monthly play club (there is a dress code – see site for details).
The Westcliff Munch – Local get-together of people interested in the fetish/BDSM lifestyle. Last Thursday of each month.